On the morning of August 21, 2023, Xingtai Huanri Rubber and Plastic Products Co., Ltd. held an August Women's Energy Conference in the conference room on the first floor of the office building. The article learned at this conference was "The Ties of Parents".

In the book 'The Ties of Parents', the author mentions that the harm of narcissistic parents to their children is long-lasting, and they may never be able to escape the shadows that their parents brought to them during their childhood.
It is worth noting that the narcissistic parents referred to here refer to those who are immature, unrealistic, and completely self centered in their behavior. Their specific manifestations include delusions, strong desire for control, lack of empathy, double standards, inner scarcity, seeking a sense of existence, longing for appreciation, emotional poverty, jealousy, contempt, arrogance, inner emptiness, professionalization, and immersion in the honor of their children Inability to tolerate children's values and needs, exploitation of others, etc.
When parents have severe destructive narcissistic traits, children often find it difficult to establish good interpersonal relationships with others. Even as adults, they are always greatly influenced by their parents. Even if their parents are wrong, they dare not go against their parents' wishes and will only suppress their emotions and sacrifice their own interests.

As written in the book 'The Ties of Parents', the most effective and long-lasting strategy to alleviate or eliminate the negative impact of narcissistic parents on you is to make your inner self stronger and more resilient. These 8 strategies will become powerful weapons for you to break free from the shackles of your parents:
1. Abandon illusions
You should understand that narcissistic parents do not actively express their love to you because they never feel that they owe you anything. So, the first thing you need to do is give up the illusion that your parents will actively express their love to you.
2. Replacing negative self-evaluation with positive self-affirmation
When you feel down, learn to communicate with yourself more, affirm yourself, and discard all negative self-evaluations.
3. Pursuing Altruism
A gift of roses carries a lingering fragrance in one's hand. Helping others unconditionally and not pursuing rewards is very helpful for building a strong inner being.
4. Helpful to others
When you learn to be helpful and not be influenced by others' emotions or no longer afraid of being isolated or vilified, it indicates that you have made significant progress in building a strong inner self.
5. Maintain curiosity and discover the beauty in life
If you always maintain curiosity, you will always find things that interest you and never feel bored. You will continue to grow and develop in a constructive direction.
6. Occasionally changing the pace of life
Occasionally changing the pace of life can bring surprises, but remember not to change it too frequently, as changing the pace frequently can double your stress.
7. Mindfulness and mindfulness
Mindfulness can expand your consciousness and help you focus.
8. Reduce your level of narcissism
Reducing the level of narcissism can make your interpersonal relationships better, making you more confident and accepting of yourself.

This book is a book that helps you break free from the shackles of narcissistic parents on your own and prevent this unpleasant experience from happening again between you and your child. We really don't need to be confined to the past anymore. Instead of getting stuck in the mud, it's better to look forward.
Love oneself is the beginning of lifelong romance.
Don't wait for your parents to say 'I'm sorry' anymore, but learn to love yourself.